There are countless articles, books, and resources available to parents
interested in learning how to make the
divorce process as easy on their children as possible. But what about grandparents
who want to help? Grandparents play an important role in a child’s
life, and many have expressed their desire to help their grandchildren
through a divorce in any way they can.
The following are just some of the ways a grandparent can help his/her
grandchild during a divorce:
Help create a sense of stability. Studies show that children who experienced stability during a divorce
adapted much better to the changes taking place in their life. Staying
in the same home, participating in the same activities, and continuing
at the same school can make a huge difference.
Offer help, but don’t take over. Let the child’s parents make the decisions, and just be there to
help when you’re needed. If you try to take control of the situation
you could cause even more conflict in the home. There are so many ways
you can help, even just offering to take your grandchildren for a night
can give the parents a chance to take some time for themselves.
Don’t pry, just listen. Ask your grandchildren how they are doing and if they want to talk about
what they are going through. If they feel like talking they will. If not,
then let it be. They may not feel ready to talk about the divorce yet.
Don’t disparage either parent. Even if you hate the person your son or daughter married, never say anything
mean, rude, or disparaging about them in front of your grandchildren.
It is important that your grandchildren respect their parents and have
good relationships with both of them.
Create unique relationships with each of your grandchildren. Every child is different, which means the feelings, emotions, and needs
of each child will be different. Find a way to connect with each of your
grandchildren. Having a strong relationship with a grandparent is highly
beneficial to the child.
If you are interested in learning more about the ways you can help your
grandchildren during or after a divorce, please feel free to
contact the office today speak with
Jacksonville family law attorney Jason Hutchinson!